Hello Reader,

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No woman gets married and thinks to herself “Now I get to spend my life feeling misunderstood, recycling the same argument five times a month, and regretting my major life decisions.

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And yet, I talk to so many women who are slogging through life, feeling that nothing will ever change, cursing themselves for marrying a narcissist whose emotional aptitude is still wearing size 6 diapers.

Living in a space of disempowerment, a hapless sacrificial lamb for the family.

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Which means they’ve left hope at the last rest stop, don’t expect life to offer much more than fleeting distractions from their burden of pain and loneliness, and are demonstrating to their precious children that marriage and family life is a good bet for people who aren’t overly interested in being happy.

If you are interested in being happy, you don’t have to have lots of common interests. You don’t have to revisit every dark incident in your past, or even get him in front of a couples counselor.

What you do need is to heal yourself, overcome your raw secret horrors, those tripwires he’s so good at activating, and get in tune with a nurturing universal Power which has always been right there waiting to shower you with more and more of what you place your attention on.

So where is your focus?

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​Did you know that a true narcissistic Axis II personality disorder is actually quite rare? But there are plenty of husbands stumbling clumsily around trying to feel ok, shouting down their own secret horrors of being not enough for you, and making you “wrong” because it feels easier than stepping into the “Doom Buggy” that is discussing feelings and uncomfily wondering what percentage of yours he’s responsible for.

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How would you feel if I said he’s not responsible for any of them? Would you feel like holding my head over your diaper pail and giving me a good whiff? Well that won’t accomplish anything. I’ve spent the last 24 years building up an immunity to diaper smells.

But it is actually true. Your job as a human is to take radical responsibility for your own feelings. Enlarge your sphere of perceived responsibility because it greatly enlarges your sphere of power.

Don’t spend one more day making a stronger case for your children that it would be better for them to try the “friends with benefits” route over growing up to be as unhappy as mom is.

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Don’t spend one more day wondering if you’d have been better off going that route yourself!

You got married because your heart was seething and stewing in savory, juicy love and all-fired ready to build a life with the man of your dreams, and you can reclaim that! You can be legit friends with legit benefits! You can have a home that feels like heaven when you open the door because nothing is blocking the glorious free flow of love. A marriage in which you can look over at your husband and wink at him, and your eyes meet and you feel like you’re dancing to I Don’t Want to Miss a Thing by Aerosmith at the prom again. And the two of you can hold onto your lil kid nuggets you made together and feel the dearest, divinest sense of belonging that you can detect amid all the baseball cleats, sandwich bags, sibling rivalry and Tide PODS®.

I have the tried and true roadmap for you.

You just might be a good fit for my next program opening if…

🗝You’re ready for resources that will immediately dial back the tension in your marriage.

🗝The pain of anticipating a future rolling out the same or worse than you have now, feels bigger than the discomfort of doing something about it.

🗝You’re fed up with your husband checking out when you need to discuss something important with him and not sure how to help him understand where you’re coming from without setting him off.

🗝It sure feels like every time you try to improve the marriage it just gets worse.

🗝You’ve had a few aha moments that seemed important at the time, but it’s been far too difficult to implement them consistently without accountability and support.

🗝You want a better atmosphere in your home for the kids’ sake and would prefer to avoid bisecting their home and turning them into yo-yos.

🗝Or you have a feeling you’re headed for divorce but want to answer those haunting questions: “Have I really done everything I could?” “Will I regret this someday?”

🗝You’re flat out dog-tired of drowning in regret and aching for a happier life.

Beautiful, it’s time to step off this nightmarish treadmill and get a much needed dose of hope.

Will you schedule a two-hour complimentary assessment with me in which we’ll dive deep into your mess and craft a highly personalized blueprint to your Ride or Die romance?

Reply to this email with the words “Ride or Die” and we’ll get you scheduled.

Queen Reader,

You deserve all the love and happiness you can hold.

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